Tell Your Story Thursday

Welcome to "Tell Your Story Thursday" Every Thursday a new person's story will be featured. Have a story about your life, pregnancy, childbirth, birthday parties, funny stories, jokes- whatever- send me your stories:

Now, this week- since it's the first week. I'll tell MY story.




Here's MY story- the whole thing, from start to present.

Picture this, a senior in high school, in an okay relationship with an okay guy for a year, hanging out with your best friends all the time, working hard for your money- when one night one of your best friends need you to go with her to to take a pregnancy test. *Sunny* picked me up and off we went to CVS, she bought the test and we went to work where she proceeded to open the package, she was having difficulties taking the test, so I took the 2nd one as "moral support". I didn't think a thing of it, and mine in fact fell apart as I did it- no joke. She said hers was negative and I walked out with mine, which I thought was negative too. She stopped and grabbed my arm, I said what- she said "Your test, it's positive." I said, "No fucking way", and sure enough it was- for the next two hours I sat in a booth crying my eyes out. I had to figure out how to go home and act like nothing was wrong at all, and I did- but it was so hard. 

I kept it to myself except for a few people when one day I got home from school and got a call from my sister asking me why my counselor called her to tell her I was failing every class (from sleeping in each class, first trimester = hibernation), and all I would say is that I needed to go to the doctor, it was a brutal 6 hours after that. Phone calls of being cursed out, name called, imagine being degraded in every way possible while having crazy pregnancy hormones, and by the one person you thought you could trust for everything. Yeah, about that. Haha. She came home, took me to CVS (even though I had taken about 7 by that time) and made me take one at home. It was positive, and we had dinner; that's about how things go in our family. 

My boyfriend at the time had me convinced he had told his Mom and she had reacted the worse way possible by kicking him out- complete lie, after about a week I started catching on to his lies. The things he would say wouldn't add up- the stories and everything, just didn't mesh right.  I finally caught him at home when he answered the phone when I called from school- that lead to the telling of his mother. He told her, he called me, and I went there after school for dinner, it was about as simple as that. However, the "What the FUCK do you think you are doing?"greeting that was the first thing out of her mouth was not the responses I expected.  After a LOOOOOOOOOOONG ugly talk we agreed we "were in love with each other and wanted to keep this child to raise together." (HA!) 

After a long pregnancy, and an even longer school year where I was put on bed rest, and completed my senior year of high school by taking 2 tests and writing an essay about what I was going to do after high school, pretty easy huh? I walked across the stage at Pepsi Collesium for graduation just like I told myself I would, come hell or high water. 

And 15 days later gave birth to my first daughter, Abigail Elise Rasmussen, at 4:14PM on June 10, 2006. She seriously is the best thing that has ever happened to me in my entire life, she is so amazing. To know that she is turning 5 in just a month, it breaks my heart.  Soon after that will be Girl Scouts and Kindergarten with best friends and girl talk soon to follow. 

But back to the story, after Abi was born things were great, I had a great relationship with her father for about 4 months until he became quite distant- and told me to "make friends" with people I worked with, I was getting NO attention, took care of Abi ALL the time, and had a "crush" on someone who worked with me. "Red" was tall, fit, and had a smile that made me go weak at the knees, he was 7 years older, college grad, and showed me the attention I longed for- but ultimately like most smooth talkers only wanted one thing. That one thing ultimately led to the break up of Abi's father and I. He strung me along, and went as far as "getting back together" with me- what do people do when they get back together? Make-up sex, well- said make-up sex included him telling me he loved me enough to have another child with me. I left that night on cloud 9 that he wanted to work things out- my car broke down on the way home, and I called him thinking he'd come rescue me- no he didn't answer, he was too busy sending me a message on facebook saying "it was all a mistake and it meant nothing". I spent the next two hours in my shower scrubbing the disgust off of my body. How could he do this to me? Why would he do this to me? What can I do to make it better? Is it really over? 

2 months later, I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd child- I contacted him and he called me every name and didn't believe it was his child, even went as far as taking me to an abortion clinic and trying to make me get an abortion- in the state of Indiana I found out I was too far along, after a few other failed options I showed up at his house and told him I was doing this on my own, I was going to give her up for adoption, and if he wanted to be a part of the situation he could be- and he chose not to. 

A month later I started talking to my now husband, and we decided to go on our first date- instant attraction. We were inseparable after that. He was a fresh breath of air and made everything better, and even better he was great with Abi and she adored him! Ultimately I knew I had to tell him about my impending pregnancy and adoption plans. I feared he would run for the hills, but instead he hugged me and was relieved it wasn't something more. 

After another long pregnancy, I awoke from a nap at Ty's parent's house and decided to go to the ER because of back pain, just to find out I was being admitted to have my 2nd child. I called the adoptive parents, my family, and Abi's father. 

Everyone showed up just in time for Miss. Isabella Raechelle VonBlon's birth on October 10, 2007 at 12:30AM. She went to an amazing family where she is getting a far better life than I would have been able to. I thank God for the VonBlon's every day, and am thankful to have an open, loving, family oriented relationship with them. Ty took care of me in the hospital, took me home, and really made sure I was in the best of spirits possible. 

Tyler and I continued to grow closer and closer throughout the time until we found out that baby number 3 was coming for us!

Shortly after in May, right before our first anniversary as a couple, I was engaged to be Mrs. Tyler Pauley. He planned the entire day out. Cooked me spaghetti, took me for a drive, and surprised me by having his best friend set up roses, the ring, and a letter he wrote me at the Carmel Fountain. His best friend was even hiding in the bushes videoing it for us. :)

  Just a couple months after that on, August 9, 2008,  I became Mrs. Tyler Pauley. However, our wedding wasn't the dream we wanted it to be. I ended up spending the entire night before in the hospital suffering from a severe kidney infection, anemia, and double pneumonia. After explaining the situation of the fact we were to be married in just a short 6 hours I signed the discharge papers AMA just to go get married, have the ceremony, and spend my honeymoon in the hospital for a week. In which- we were unable to get the money refunded for what we missed out on.

Just a few months after that we had Miss. Caydence Rose Pauley on December 8, 2008 at 12:11PM. 

Giving up Isabella was the hardest thing I have ever done in my entire life and it is what has made me the strongest woman I am today. I thank God for the way things have gone in my life. I now have 3 amazing daughters, an incredible husband that I am so lucky and blessed to have in mine and Abi's lives, and kick-ass friends and family to boot! It's been hard, chaotic, and crazy. I've had a hell of a 5 years but they've been the hardest, best years of my life and am so glad that it was brought me where I am now and I don't regret a damn thing.  :)


What has YOUR Thursday been?


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think about tuesday.

Hello, there my fellow bloggers. How is this week after Easter (if you celebrate) treating you? The weather here, could totally be better- but April Showers, Bring May Flowers, but seriously.

When will this rain ever stop?

I usually love my namesake month, but this month it's rained NONSTOP.

So annoying, and definitely a mood killer.

Since my last post, things have been going GREAT!

We housesat at my sister's house while she went on vacation to Gulf Shores- LUCKY!

We had a blast pretending to own a big house with a fenced in backyard, but we missed our little apartment by the time we got home last night.

When we got home last night, there was a package outside for me, it was my package for school that had my scrubs, stethoscope, blood pressure cuff, nametag, and etc in it.

So official, and so unreal to me. In just a short 6 weeks I will be working in a doctor's office learning things that I honestly thought I'd never learn. Crazy! And just about a week after that, my little baby will no longer be a baby, but a 5 year old young lady. :( Super sad face!

Where did this baby go?

 ^ photo credit: Ali B. Weber ^

It's so hard to believe that in just a few short months my baby will be turning 5, entering girl scouts, and starting her educational career as a kindergartener in the fall.

Today, I've spent most of my day working on my blog, making it something I'm a bit more proud of, and of course- the never ending couponing, signing up for freebies/coupons, and entering giveaways.

Speaking of, Tyler and I entered a contest with Disney, a Happily Ever After contest (click that link to go vote for us [once a day per email account]), in which we submitted this picture:

And this story:

Ty & I parted ways after our rehearsal dinner, I to our home with my bridesmaids & him to his best mans house with some friends. I woke up at 1AM with cold chills & cold sweats, my friend came in to check on me & said we need to get you to a hospital. Off we went, Ty met us there & my drs proceeded to tell me I have a severe kidney infection & anemia & that I need to be admitted, I tell them we are getting married, they say you need to cancel. I'm not cancelling all that hard work & money on our VERY limited budget, I left AMA feeling horrible, we got married at a small quiet ceremony that was not the dream we both wanted. We left the wedding & went to the hospital, I went back in my wedding dress. We spent our honeymoon in the hospital the week ahead, losing our money and reservations bc it was too late to cancel. We wanted to renew our vows, and this would be our dream for us and our kids. It's perfect for this family of 4 on a limited income with a ton of love. Please vote for us.

It's so hard for me to believe that in just a month, my husband and I will have been together as a couple for four years! Four years, I can't even imagine my life before those four years, really! He's the best thing that's ever happened to me, and he's saved me and made me the woman I am today! :D

Caydee and I are fighting some kind of sickness, but not sure what it is- waves of feverish chills and irritability. Hoping it passes soon, I want to go to church on Sunday! I can't wait for our family to learn and rejoice in God's everlasting love. It's definitely something that would help put this family on the right track.

Things I'm obsessing over today: Extreme Couponing, downloading new music, and making my blog "pretty".

Movies I've watched recently: Tin Man, Black Swan, Due Date- all movie's I'd recommend, go check them out :D

Movies I want to see: Water for Elephants and Rio 3D.

So, that's how my Tuesday has been- how's yours been?



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